Dealing with Jealousy

[Nvrgivup]

Well you are right Allen, two different issues. As far as ending the divorce I am trying to follow as much as the advice here as I can. As far as the affair, I agree that is what it is, but she of course does not. As far as she is concerned, we are separated so OP are fair game. From my "side" my family knows and a few freinds, our children know as she "announced" it 6 weeks ago or so. I assume all her friends and coworkers know, I believe he is a regular customer at the restaurant she works at. She doesn't have much contact with her own family, and they haven't spoken to me in a couple years now, so I have no idea what they may think. She has taken our youngest son out with him and to his house a few times, my older two don't seem to want anything to do with it??
The reason I posted in this fourm today was because of the jealousy I am feeling. I have had advice from puppy, I have read Gucci's "letting go" I have followed many of the posts in a few of the catagories here. I am really working hard to DB, though we have essentially no contact right now so hard to know if my efforts are having effect?? Like I said it is my "thoughts" of this guy and her being with him, that have me pretty down right now. When I first confronted her about it, she denied it, which in a wierd way comforted me, but since she admits it now, I find my feelings are a little darker. I was somewhat surprised by the difference in suspecting and knowing, and how it made me feel.