Dan, I should add that my W and I seperated on 5/25, and we didn't speak after 5/27 until mid July, so there was a period of about 6 weeks of darkness where I just worked on getting my own danged mojo back, started a new fitness routine, started making near-term plans for my own future, talked to a therapist and so on.
It's been a long road, and I was certain my marriage was over more than once, and even now I don't know even though we are getting along better than we ever have.
The divorce has been placed on-hold twice now (first time extended from August to September, and now it has been delayed indefintely--our dissolution agreement expires after 6 months).
It is quite amazing how this stuff works. Although I am not physically separated and never was, I spent my time reading DR, hanging around here and enjoying my moments at home alone while W was running around town with her drinking buddies.
We did not really speak for months. Before I ended up in here I did not know how to properly detach but my brain told me to leave her alone and just watch from the distance.
So now after I announced that I may be moving out of town alltogether things have changed.
We're getting along well, the family is back in the picture. Last night W dropped in my lap again for a neck massage.
It is a strange journey and I would go crazy if I would try read into every little sign, but I won't.
Focusing on the process not the outcome. Tryng to keep that catnip on me at all times.
The absolutely no communication between you and your W? Did it drive you crazy or did you totally focus on GAL and detaching? I am on my 10th week of NC from my W and slowly getting better.
Last night W dropped in my lap again for a neck massage.
And you did this for free?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Last night W dropped in my lap again for a neck massage.
And you did this for free?
It has to be done for free or it doesn't count. Were you expecting a BJ in return maybe? That, apparently, was my problem with my W!!! Or rather ONE of her problems with me.
It turns out, I can be happy no matter what. Who knew?
You focused on what and what happened? GTFOH!!!
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
