Remember that during MLC they become the opposite of what they have been their whole life.
Lance, thank you very much for your feedback and thanks for this reminder (above). Over the past 10 days I have really been questioning whether the H I knew was really just a mask for this person I am seeing now. XH has really begun to act much more like his old self and this is why I thought he was emerging. I really believe that XH has used social interaction as his way to push down bad feelings. Jody helped me to see that when XH was a child, socializing with the neighborhood kids and moms was his survival mechanism because his mother was too drunk to care for him and his father was always at work. Now I am wondering if XH is acting less depressed because he has found another OW to medicate him..........At this point in time I don't know if he has or not........and when I read Jim Conway's info on the final 3 stages, the "What if?" section made me wonder if XH has been in Replay since his 1st D 16 years ago? Obviously, I'm very confused right now and disappointed. I have been dealing with the grief of these realizations/questions over the past 10 days.
Re: the possible new OW, XH and I are D'ed and we have not had a romantic R since he dropped the bomb, so I don't really have any basis for setting a boundary, other than setting the kind of boundary I would with a close friend. The recreational things I have been doing with XH have been the same kind of recreational things I would do with male and female friends.
