I read up a bit in your thread on page one...here are a few questions that I need some information on:
How old are you and XH? How long married? Divorce finalized in12/09, right? Bomb dropped sometime in 2008, right? 1 OW in 2009? Traumatic event: mother's Alzheimer's disease (any death?)
Is this the correct "short" version of your sitch?