Dan, I should add that my W and I seperated on 5/25, and we didn't speak after 5/27 until mid July, so there was a period of about 6 weeks of darkness where I just worked on getting my own danged mojo back, started a new fitness routine, started making near-term plans for my own future, talked to a therapist and so on.
It's been a long road, and I was certain my marriage was over more than once, and even now I don't know even though we are getting along better than we ever have.
The divorce has been placed on-hold twice now (first time extended from August to September, and now it has been delayed indefintely--our dissolution agreement expires after 6 months).
It is quite amazing how this stuff works. Although I am not physically separated and never was, I spent my time reading DR, hanging around here and enjoying my moments at home alone while W was running around town with her drinking buddies.
We did not really speak for months. Before I ended up in here I did not know how to properly detach but my brain told me to leave her alone and just watch from the distance.
So now after I announced that I may be moving out of town alltogether things have changed.
We're getting along well, the family is back in the picture. Last night W dropped in my lap again for a neck massage.
It is a strange journey and I would go crazy if I would try read into every little sign, but I won't.
Focusing on the process not the outcome. Tryng to keep that catnip on me at all times.
