You will accept one day that your WAS is not any different than the other WAS's we read about each day.
My H said the same thing your W said... he said we will NEVER get back together and blah blah blah. He also said the only way to get back together was for us to get divorced (letting each other go)and once we were divorced (or legally separated) we could get to know one another again.
We did get legally separated in Nov. 09 (our saga started in March of 08). Since last Nov. I have been VERY dark on him. In fact, the only contact I have w/him has been when he initiated it on our 11 yr. wedding anniversary and several times after that.
He has been with OW for almost three years and they have been living together since April of this year. Funny how he HAD to get separated/divorced in order to feel better about "us", no? IOW, he needed more space for OW.
In a strange twist of events he has started contacting me again and is VERY upset I am proceeding forward with the divorce. And now once again he wants us to get to know one another again and can't understand why I am "adamant" about the divorce.
Do you think my H was being real when he said we had to get divorced or separated in order to "work on us"? No. He was not.
Unless your W takes tangible steps to work on herself and the marriage it's all BS. I hope your Agreement pans out how you planned but each moment it's not legally binding is more time your W has to think about her future with limited monetary resources.
I hope I am wrong but all of this sounds pretty textbook to me. Your W handed you BS to get what she wanted and give you lots of false hope in the process.
