John read up on lovingly detach again. For my sitch, I have not been cold, but I havent been a doormat either. I think TH puts it the best, we arent going to be buddies. I am getting the same speech from my W, she says I am trying to have a personal relationship with you and you shove me off.
IF she feels that way, then it is what it is. I suggest something along the same lines, when you say you guys are feeling the love again, it sounds obsessing to me. I feel that your expectations are still too high. Re read your thread a few times I think you will answer all the questions to your last post.
