I feel bad for my son because I know he is struggling with his feelings about this. He says "if it is dad's dying wish - how can I ignore this?" But his father has never apologized to him for what he put him through. The one time Chuck moved back home and wanted to make it all up to us - Brandon could not even look at him. He could not accept it. He told me even then that his father had not ever made peace with him.
The one thing I really worry about for the kids is if there father did die without them making their peace - they would not get that chance later on. So that is a dilemma.
Anyone whoever thinks that somehow we all get past this all, that somehow the kids will bounce back is living in a fantasyworld.
