We went to the weight room at W's apartment complex and used the Body Solid equipment, back to her apartment for showers, then a little romance, then went to brunch, then watched weiner dogs (dachsunds) race for charities, then she came to my house and watched the dogs, then we went out for fast food.
It was a very fun and romantic day, and it worse us both out (physically).
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
I'm very glad to hear that your sitch is improving so dramatically. Just when you seemed to have given-up all hope and accepted that you needed to move on, things changed again.
What happened between 8/24 & 9/8 that made your W reconsider? Were you just dark?
I have been separated for 2 weeks now and there has been very little contact between W and I. Only about the kids. I am struggling very much with this situation at the moment and try to take heart from the developments in your sitch, but I just don't see it happening with mine.
I have been GAL pretty much and I have a great house to live in, but this was my first week-end alone and I took it hard at times. I guess I just need to find more things to do.
Sorry to ramble on about my sitch here, just looking for some advice from someone who seems to be handling this better than I am.
What happened between 8/24 & 9/8 that made your W reconsider? Were you just dark?
Her perspective changed.
I am sure it had nothing whatsoever to do with anything I did.
I had said "We're not going to be buddies" to her "let's be friends" speech. I went out and had a good time, decided no matter what I was having a good life.
Day after my birthday, she brought me a sandwich for my B-day.
I have just been happy, so it was no big deal to be charming in some of our interactions (not hard to do when you aren't having to deal with being attacked).
Honestly, I have changed, and she is changing. That's what I think it is anyway.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
Be prepared for some spew. Had a good day now you will be tested. It's just part of the process.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Dan, I should add that my W and I seperated on 5/25, and we didn't speak after 5/27 until mid July, so there was a period of about 6 weeks of darkness where I just worked on getting my own danged mojo back, started a new fitness routine, started making near-term plans for my own future, talked to a therapist and so on.
It's been a long road, and I was certain my marriage was over more than once, and even now I don't know even though we are getting along better than we ever have.
The divorce has been placed on-hold twice now (first time extended from August to September, and now it has been delayed indefintely--our dissolution agreement expires after 6 months).
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M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
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