I think you are doing the right thing. Boundaries set in early MLC are harder to enforce and the MLCer will often use it to justify what they are doing or have done.
Just watch out for cake eating and do what you have to to protect yourself and your heart. You do this by detaching and not analyzing all that the MLCer does and says. Let those things bounce off of you.
Boundaries can be set later when you are more sure of your footing and the balance to enforce them. Your MT is right. MLC = Confusion!
Bobby, for being so early into this, you're doing great!
