You are a 'detective' like me and I agree, that knowing the details from emails of the dying off of the affair is very helpful to you - yuo know that it was him that was losing interest and backing away from her and resisting moving in, or introducing her to friends etc. As I know from all the information I got from friends, that it was Helen who loved H, but he that backed away and broke it off, as your H did. I find that helpful and reassuring to know, but to be honest, it all seems like a loooong time ago now, as DrLove says. xxx
