Just observing the changes

[Sanderika]

Hi Cas,

All is still sounding very positive for you and H.

I have found that when they are willing to share with you, you
are forefront in their mind and the OW has taken the back seat position (if the OW is still in the picture that is).

In my case, this was a common occurrence. If my H disappeared, sort to speak, he would only go about 3 weeks tops and then I could count on H coming around again. It's funny, it lasted the entire 5 years even when he filed for divorce the first time in
2008. Another thing, each time H came back around he was more
open and sharing and more comfortable with me and the home. The changes in H were obvious which makes this all the harder to understand.

Your H has played things quite different from mine. I think you are in a better position for a return because for the most part he did leave in body, mind and spirit....and mine did not.

I would wait on the FB issue. Don't be too quick to rush him. You have received so many invites to date, I think that one is coming as well.

Thanks for asking about me, I am not doing well. I have gone into a depression and should seek out some med help. I am still very tearful, having trouble thinking and getting things done. I have yet to see the papers as filed with the County. If H has sent them in, I should have gotten a docket and initial appearance date in the mail by now. I have had no contact with H since 9/2/10. I have made contact with my lawyer and she is willing to take my case on again. I have to put some paperwork together for her meeting. It's all financial stuff, I don't want to do it.

On a good note, my son is doing great so far at high school. He likes it and it is good for my heart to see, he's a good boy.

Cas, I am sooo sad.

Sanderika