.The part that I don't understand....and that is entirely contrary to the H that I knew for 5 years, is "Why, if there was another OW, was he increasing contact with me at the same time that he was seeing her?" H/XH is not a player type. That is not the type of thing he would do...........
Remember that during MLC they become the opposite of what they have been their whole life.
The scientific explanation of this come from menopause. Male menopause causes the men to lose testosterone and gain estrogen. Women are the complete opposite of this during there menopause. So at the end of our lives men and women become closer to being the same than the middle parts of our lives. When we are born we have very little hormone production. We become opposites(men and women) at puberty and stay that way until menopause when we become the same again. I hope that is written clearly enough.
Your H antics are perfectly predictable according to MLC. He is following the script almost to the letter. Trying to keep you "not to close, not too far away"
Finally, if there is still an OW he is still in replay. That is bad news, sorry.
You must continue to live your life "as if" he is not coming back. I would ask him about the OW. You must still enforce your boundaries. He will more than likely have some crazy explanation for her.
What would you do if you were dating a new man? I would do the same thing as your answer to the above question.
