I was EXTREMELY stressed out during the pregnancy but thankfully my D was born healthy and strong...I mean, really strong...she is emotionally stronger than me sometimes. I think she was a fighter then (in utero) and she is a fighter now. She has been without a doubt, one of the biggest blessings in my life.
Just ignore what your H says. He can easily figure out if the baby is his or not after the baby is born. Just continue to remind yourself that your H is just looking for ways to justify his bad behavior and that this is not how a healthy man treats his pregnant wife.
I like how you express this...it's undeniable that no "healthy" man walks away from his unborn wife and pregnant child. No man.
My baby (now 3 months) has also been my biggest blessing and her presence helps me enormously. Babies are so good at getting us to live in the Now.
I was also very very stressed and lost heaps of weight during my pregnancy but my baby is also very strong. I heard somewhere that babies develop strength in utero...and that stress can make them more resilient.
But having said that, it helps to stay calm when pregnant, of course!!
Me 36; H 40 baby born in May M:13, T:15 Bomb (OW): Dec 09 began DBing: Feb WH overseas with OW old: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2027369#Post2027369
