Sorry Annie,
I know you don't want to hear this, but if your H is in MLC,
the journey can be very long. Years in almost all cases. Everyone here that has been around for a few months or more realizes that this takes a lot of time. I would read the resources from Cadet to keep getting more informed on what you have your hands on. There are great people here to help you. Do not be afraid to ask questions. There is a lot to learn but the rewards are great if you are willing to spend your time wisely. I hear your question, but I think your answer will be in Cadet's resources. I am trying to lead you to a place that will give you what you are looking for. If you don't find what you are looking for than you got to keep asking more questions. I am not trying to be mysterious, just keep reading and reading.