Looking for advice, WAW

[looking2keepmywf]

I had a productive talk tonight with the W. It is clear that she wants out, and so we have agreed to get a divorce. I told her that we should try and be as mature about this as possible, and work together to come up with the terms of the divorce. She has already agreed that we will split custody of my S. We didn't really talk about my 2 SD's, but they will be fine as they are almost grown and on their own anyway.

We do have the near term problem of her living here until she can find a job. I told her that I am NOT moving out. She can go and live with her Mom, or she can wait until she finds a job to move out. There is a lot of work to do on the house to get it ready to sell, but we both agreed to work on this as we will have to sell the house. It's probably best as there are way too many memories here.

I recognize now that I have neglected our relationship to the point that it is no longer fixable. Maybe it is normal, but I certainly keep thinking about everything that has happened, what I could have done differently, and TBH - what I need to do to NEVER have this happen again. Obviously, I am a long way from having to worry about that, but it's certainly something that I want to make sure I don't do with my son.

My son, I hope, will be fine. He knows that both of us love him dearly, and I do think that we will do our best to keep him as happy as can be, given the circumstances.

It is going to be very difficult getting through this, but I feel that I have a decent support system in place - and this forum is one of those.

I could never have imagined that I would be in this place again - since this is my second marriage too, but here I am. I thought that the real reason for my first marriage failure was due to my EW's insane and unfounded jealousy. But, it very well could have been due to my neglecting our relationship too. Maybe someday I will know for sure.

I know that this will likely make me a better parent as I already have been 'stepping it up' in that regard. And I am trying to keep a positive attitude on this whole situation. I will get through this, and it will make me a better person in the long run. One step at a time, and day by day.