The scouting event was great! Huge turnout, lots of fun, plenty of food. S9 somehow got a splinter in his left foot somehow (still trying to figure out how he did that -- must have gotten wood chips inside his shoe?) but it all went well for me up until the close of the event, when the ex was supposed to show up, but calls me on my cell phone instead.
The move away thing has been a Sword of Damocles hanging over my head since the beginning of this madness. I knew she would do it eventually. And she feels self-justified to do so because she automatically thinks that as the mother she has every right to call all the shots regarding our S's. I have been trying to divest her of that false notion ever since, but she can't be bothered to think beyond her own selfishness. I had been persuaded by my atty to drop a clause in our consent order that would inhibit move aways (by placing all of the burden for transportation to comply with the custody schedule on the back of the offending parent) so as to get xW to sign something, but I regret it now.
The parenting coordinator has never taken serious xW's moves to place roadblocks to practical execution of our consent order, so he's been of no help as xW moves right along with her plans to marginalize me in our S's lives. She is still talking up S9 changing to school systems out that way next year. S5 would be a part of that move too. And yet the PC still acts like she would never do anything like that. He can bury his head in the sand but I won't.
I suggest you talk to your L about a move away clause in your own agreement and whether that might be workable. L's might be tempted to only use such language as bargaining chips, but hindsight tells me that you need to not settle for anything less than what you or your children can still live with.
I believe that if we are to truly practice loving firmness/strength we need to bring our "A" game.
