Not sure where to start or end, WAW - #2

[john28]

what does it mean to "let go?"

It may be a different action and feeling for other people, but this is what it meant for me:

I saw that attempting to control the outcome of our situation was futile. Even if I succeeded in "keeping" WAS married to me, it wouldn't have lasted. I saw that the only way this could work out, if it could, was to let the WAS make their own choice to come back into this marriage. My WAS wasn't ready to do that, and would continue to feel that way if I pressured, pursued, or reasoned with them to stay. Any way I would have tried to control or manipulate the situation to my favor would eventually have been seen through clearly, and would have caused resentment in the relationship - even if it worked. I knew it was time to recapture the person that I was, and not this desperate soul seeking approval of my spouse. So, I didn't let my WAS go - I set myself free of this bondage instead.

It's not about letting someone go. Most LBS will never be able to look at it like that in their desperation to keep their spouse. Instead, when you look at it as setting yourself free from the pain and torment, it is easier. The consequence is that you may never be with your spouse again, and sure that hurts, but I finally saw that by not setting myself free I would be hurt much more and for a longer period of time.

That's what letting go is to me.