Dreamt about H last night. In my dream my whole family went on vacation and H went with us. It was a long, weird dream so I'll just write about the pertinent parts. In my dream H and I were talking about my car and he said "We'll take over payments for the Saturn from your mom." And I said to him, "You mean me, don't you. Why did you say 'we'?" He replied that he thought I would figure out he left Whore, that by him going on vacation with me meant it was over with her. He said that the police would have escorted her to get the rest of her stuff from the apartment so it was really over. The image then changed to me in the hotel room with my mom and sister who were both telling me I was an idiot for taking him back. Then I left the hotel room and found him and asked if he was really coming back or was it a dream. And he replied that I was dreaming, that he hadn't left her. He kept repeating that over and over until I woke up, feeling bummed out.
Then this morning at ten of eight he called me from his home phone, which he knows I don't like. I wanted DS to answer but he refused so I put the phone down, intending to ignore the call. DS got upset with me, grabbed the phone and answered it "What!?" then handed the phone to me. H asked what was wrong and I said DS was watching TV, didn't want to talk. H said that was fine, he called to talk to me anyway. He then asked if we were missing the leg to DS's Megablocks toy. I said I didn't know, I wasn't even sure where the toy was. He said if we were that he had it so not to stress trying to find it. I said, "Ok, thanks." He then said he would talk to me later and ended the call.
Um, WTF? Why is he calling me to ask me about our son's toy? Wouldn't it make more sense to ask DS since he's the one who actually plays with the toy? And for that matter, did it really even warrant calling me about it?
Then he called me again after work, I let it go to voice mail. He was talking about his Wednesday visit with DS and how he has no where close to my place to go with him so would it really mess up DS to keep the exchange time as 8 at night?
I haven't answered him, need to think on it. I was actually thinking today that I need to push back DS's bedtime from 8:30 to 8. By the time we read stories and he goes to sleep it's almost 9, so if we start it at 8 he might be asleep by 8:30.
New thread: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2112303
Your H is still all over the map. HE's emotionally stupid and in alien zone till.
He's trying to talk to you via text... time for YOU to set boundaries. Either you can handle this and you can decide to "be friends" and wait this out... (and trust me, it's NOT easy)... if you think distancing yourself is tough... trying being his "friend" and have him obliviously walking all over your feelings. Not fun. Can be done, did it... had to set a pile of boundaries and rules, otherwise I'd have killed him.
Either that or go dark... and set him straight... stop sending me notes, I am not your flippin' buddy.
I'm thinking about you Mystik. *hugs*
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
