NCU,

I read Kara posts to you and I really support what she has said. Show your H the cool calm collected woman that he was attracted to. You make more $$ than he does, have a better career and station in life and your children adhore you....you are quite a CATCH!!!

Work on GAL and tune your ears out from what your H says to you. You might decide that Mr. Negative is not good enough for you...don't put up with him driving you down so that he feels good about himself!

Yeah, I have read gucci loafer's thread on letting them go as well as the TW guys material. That is why I was hesitant on sending the email to my W. Although, it was the right thing to do in my eyes (I felt good) she might have said "so what" or been confused because I let her go a week earlier, or annoyed. I know she opened the email and still has all of my emails that I have sent her since this sitch began.

I read somewhere that the rule of thumb is that it will take at least a month of DBing for each year that you have been married. We will have been married for 5 years this December. I am not sure if this holds true or not, but I do not plan to jump ship yet.

You know I told my W during my A that I was falling in love with someone else when I saw the hurt in her eyes I almost died. But when she read some of the text that I sent the OW on my phone I was simply embarrased....those texts she could recite verbatum and actually mentioned them about a week before she left. I know I am thinking about the past, which doesn't help with the future...but if I could only take back June 2008 I would in a heart beat!!!!