I finally got the principle that we are DBing for us and not for our spouses. I had plans to do a lot with my boys, but they had a lot of Boy Scout stuff to do this weekend. I will wait a bit longer until I think about dating, but I don't think it would be a bad thing to go out with the opposit sex as friends. We do need to socialize and it would help with self esteem.
Your H appears to be the biggest pin in deflating your self esteem...he really appears to be a bully and probably lacks self esteem himself.
NCU from what I can see you have a wonderful beautiful soul. There are more fish in the sea than just your H and my W. We need to start thinking that we will be continuing on without our spouses and we will be all right.
There has only been one period of time where I went more than a week dark so now since her b-day is over I plan to go totally dark for a while and see what happens. Maybe this is the wrong approach, but it seems she moves when this happens. Besides it will help me to detach further.
