Not sure where to start or end, WAW - #2

[TimeHeals]

TH, I know you mean well, but I really don't believe you understand the impact of divorce on children

You've cetainly said so often enough anyway

I've witnessed it first-hand among relatives and friends ( and my own wife and many ex-girlfriends are products of divorced families, so I've seen long-term impacts of divorce and divorced parents not coping well with divorce).

The simple fact is that if your spouse is bent on or already has divorced or left you, there's nothing you CAN do but deal with things in a healthy manner, and how you cope is a model for your children. They will feel what they feel, and you can't talk them out of their feelings (that is unhealthy too), but you can model healthy coping, and it's a win-win: you are happy, and they learn how to deal with adversity without getting stuck in a negative past or fatalistic present.

You know what else I have noticed? You seem to focus on negative things. The two unhappiest groups of people on the planet....

We can all live good lives. If Nelson Mandella could discover love, empathy, and freedom while in a prison cell for nearly 2 decades, we all can do this.