Not sure where to start or end, WAW - #2

[TimeHeals]

My children have asked me why my WAW is "doing this to us."

Teach your kids not to be "victims". He isn't doing anything to "them". He's unhappy and trying to find his way.

The best way I can describe it to them is how a drowning person will pull down anyone around her just to save herself,

The problem I have with this explanation is that it leaves out the Key problem and focuses on the negative aspects. The key problem is perspective. The two unhappiest groups of people on the planet are people high in past-negative (this event made me sad, I regret this, I am sorry about when I...) and present-fatalistic (nothing makes any difference because we're all going to die anyway, so it doesn't matter what I do. Nothing will ever change.) perspectives.

This is the point in the gratitude list : to teach you to focus on past and present events and things that make you feel grateful until you are seeing them everywhere you look, and then you "feel" "in love" with "life" and the world.

When you "feel" "in love" in a close personal relationship, you are focused very much on the present good, but eventually, the past and the future perspectives re-emerge, and if you have an unhealthy perspective, you are right back where you started, miserable and not "in love".

Life is good, and time is the most precious thing we have, and it's surely running out whether or not you use it wisely.

I should not neglect to mention, people with highly skewed time-perspectives find it impossible to understand or be understood by people with healthier time perspectives. They speak different languages. But we can change our perpectives.

To use time wisely, you must focus on the good things more (past and primarily present), and make reasonable plans for the near future insofar as you can anticipate the consequences of your own actions.