Not sure where to start or end, WAW - #2

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I'd like to explore the reasoning behind my post above here as a bit of self-indulgence.

I call this line of reasoning, "Making a treaty with the native americans".

Native Americans didn't really understand how the Euopean settlers could "own" the land. The concept of owning the land was completely foreign to them. As a result, they sometimes made some lousy deals, and worse, they didn't forsee that as new settlments and outposts occupied those lands, they would be pushed farther and farther off their traditional hunting grounds, and that treaties really didn't mean that much and were subject to change... unlike the land deals

WASs will sometimes offer to give up all claims if you just "set them free".

They are offering something ("legal claims to assets and offspring") for nothing ("freedom").

Freedom they already had. They could have it and be married (except for the freedom to sleep around, we hope).

Based on my limited experiece, I think that WASs are just as confused about their feelings as LBSs sometimes.

Sometimes they just want to "feel love", and because that is not there and because they have a past-negative perspective, when they look at the relationship, they focus on their resentments, regrets, anger, and so on, and they are miserable.

WASs will sometimes say, "I feel like I am drowning in this marriage" or "I feel like I am suffocating in this marriage"... followed up by, "and I won't be happy unless you let me go".

Now, I don't know much, but they aren't suffocating or drowning, but they do seem desperate to "feel love" again, but they can't shift their perspective on the marriage from focusing on past negatives.

Sometimes, the LBS tries and tries to save the marriage, and the WAS thinks that it is the LBS trying to save the marriage that is holding them back from joy and freedom (rather than their own perspective), so they offer up everything for their "freedom".

To me, this is a great deal. Take it. You get everything, and you give up nothing. They will have to figure out that they were always free, and that it is perspective that is the problem whether or not you set the free and whether or not they come back asking to work on the marriage

If the native americans offer to make a treaty (you get everyting, they get freedom), make that treaty.