C, I've been stopping by looking for this thread. I'm really proud of what you(C) have accomplished. Thats right, you accomplished it.
I'm also glad your gonna stop by the Piecing forum. The folks there are gonna be able to help you bunches. When the feelings of "why do I want her back" start to rear their ugly heads. Look for JJ, as he is really a special soul. He has some news to share with you. Listen!
Your new mission is no longer "Patience". It's now "Don't react". I had an experience this weekend that brought my W to tears. It tore me inside out. I had two beings sitting on my shoulders. On the left, the old Kent saying "let her have it" you are right and she is wrong. On the right, I'm not sure, but it looked like Michelle. She was saying "OK Kent. this is what it's all about, Whattya gonna pull from the solutions barrel"? Kent appologizes to wife for hurting her, gives the mandatory hug and withdraws to take care of necessary child care business. Hmmmm! We talked about it at midnight and W was ecstatic.
This, my friend is your new challenge. It continues forever. I'm glad there is such a smart and beautiful angel on my right shoulder. I hope she is on yours. If not, I'll be there to kick you in the ass. Just call or E-mail me.
To others reading this thread, I think this story is significant. CD, is home. Not alot of posts on his threads, but a helluva alot of work on himself and his R. He swallowed all his pride and temporarily gave up on his vision of right Vs his W's vision of right. He decided what was really important, "the family"! Now CD works to find a mutual reality. I recognize this sacrifice, even if he does not. C is lucky, just as I was lucky. Lucky for Michelle and lucky for this BB. The DB/DR principals can really work for many of us if we only give them the chance (time, time, time, time, time)
I stopped by looking for this post from C. I managed to fall Xmas eve, on the ice. I now am laid up with plates. screws and pins in my ankle and I'm here to say I have never been happier in my life. Pretty strange eh! How could that be? I know how. Thankyou Michelle for everything. You saved my marriage and my sanity. I am just finishing DR and am here to say that it is 1st class. This is the book that all couples should read before the trouble starts.
I also recommend Michelles KLA seminars or if you can score it, a few minutes with her. In 60 seconds, Michelle helped me more than could ever have been anticipated. She is the result of a "solutions" oriented mind. Bought and paid for my friends. Take advantage of it for as long as she offers it.
Keep up the great work C and everyone. This is part of what it is all about. If your smart, patient, studious, and alittle lucky.
