THX friends. BTW I am not "asking him to leave" we are separated. He comes over two out of his three nights to have dinner and put S to bed since he is small, but he doesn't take him the whole night. In other words, I can't ask him to move out, he already did that over a year ago.
As for setting him free - he's been free. He was fence sitting (at least that's what he told me, and we were in MC - could have been lies as there was OW) for a long time, then in May told me he wasn't coming back. We stopped MC then and I have gone dim. If you see a way that I"m not setting him free, pls explain.
I have not had a third party take S because there is drop off only one night per week. I also have watched H closely to make sure he is not losing his temper at S as he tends to be verbally and emotionally abusive, or staring at a computer screen when around S much of the time.
