Sorry, even after all my ramblings, I failed to mention the whole wedding ring thing. I noticed that for the past few weeks - she has not worn her wedding rings at all. She even 'unfriended' me on Facebook, and listed herself as not married.
This may have been in response to a text that I sent to her a few days after her night of not coming home - when I said that I knew who she was with and I wasn't happy that she lied to me about it.
Since then, she changed the password on her (and the kids) phone account - so I cannot see who she texts now - and also one of her credit card accounts.
I know that was a stupid move on my part - but you live and learn, I guess.
I still have access to some of her personal information, and have checked up on her to see what I can find. But, TBH, lately I haven't really cared that much. If she wants to do whatever - without me - than what does it matter.
Me: 46 WAW: 43 M: 8.5 yrs, T: 9.5 yrs Best friends b4 marriage: 2 yrs EA/PA: 8/10 Told me she doesn't love me anymore: 9/2/10 Kids: 2 stepdaughters: 17,15, Son: 6