New here but learning slowly. Advice appreciated

[Albuquerque]

Well the weekend started off good but I've taken a turn for the worse. Took D out for our first ever Waverunner experience. We had a blast! H had previously asked if it was OK for her to spend the evening with him and spend the night at his place. He planned to bake a cake with her. I said no problem.

When H arrived, he asked to take HIS Dremel. That was a very odd choice of words and he used it TWICE so I know it wasn't an accident. It wasn't THE Dremel, it was HIS Dremel. It's not like he was a super handyman. We've both used the Dremel. I know it's a silly thing but it seemed a significant choice of words. Not once has he ever referred to anything in the house that way. Much as I didn't want it to, it still bothered me. Didn't MAJORLY bother me, but it kind of stung a bit. I'm also bothered by knowing that it bothered me. Need to keep working on the detachment.
Then to top it off, one of my very good friends is moving up north. She stopped by this evening to say goodbye. It's hard because she's one of the few people who know my full situation (including my description of his MLC). She had a hard time understanding, but was supportive and that meant a lot. It's hard not having a support system to lean on. That's what makes this group so helpful. Then I spent the rest of the evening just watching a movie. But this was the first time ever that D has been away from me at night just to be with H. Kind of gave me a glimpse of a future I don't relish with possible house swapping for my D. So I've been teary off and on all night. Sometimes, reality just kind of hits you and you have no choice but to realize "Hells bells, this sucks!". I think sometimes I keep myself SO busy that I don't have time to truly breathe it all in. Now that I have, I have to say, it stinks.