Wow Bobbie, I don't know the time frame here but I just read through all your posts and it sounded like I could have wrote it over the course of my last three years. (Aside from my wife never left the house and she never "dated") she did have an affair though. Your W seems like she is in that same %$%^^# fog my wife was in. I too heard the "I don't want to get your hopes up" and "I don't know what's wrong with me" and the I love you but am not in love with you. My W also refused to see a counselor together. All I can tell you bud is if you truly want this marriage to work you just need to sit tight buddy. It's a LOOOOOG and rough ride. W wife had her wall up also and would not let me in but I have learned something (partly from OT) Even though I know what you are saying about “she said if I wanted sex she would let me have it” My W (after two years without said the same thing) I too thought this is not how I want it to be but then started thinking. If she opened the door go in buddy… It is kind of like going to that party that you really did not feel like going to... once you get there you have a great time. Ya she might not “desire” to have sex with you after all this time but hey…. Show her a good time and she will be back for more…. Waiting for HER to rip her clothes off and jump your bone is not going to happen. Trust me I waited and wanted that too... well not your wife but mine…..
Like I have heard before and will pass on to you…. How long does DBing take? As long as it takes…. Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
