glad you sent the message. It wouldn't have been right to let her birthday go without saying anything. Even to a WAS.
I too have a text message on my mobile from the 18th of April last (2 weeks before the bomb). It says "I'm sad about all that's happened (the A), but please don't worry, nothing's over between us" (H and self).Two weeks of normal loving behaviour, an intense intimate life and then : "I want out - have been playacting for years, can't desire you anymore...). I'm not so naïve as to believe it happened overnight, but he showed real feeling and initiated intimacy right up to the bomb. So I think there's confusion and crisis there and it's too early to bring in the undertakers as yet. The same is probably true of your wife.
Detachment is easy to advise and seems very hard to practise. Everything reminds me of him, of all he meant to me. I realize, though, that I had put him on a pedestal and he's rather fallen off that. I always ga
Me: 46 H:42 Together for 18 yrs, married 14. 3 children: 2 girls 13 and 10, one boy 7. Husband had affair, ended it and then decided on separation. Separated 08/2010
