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My view is this, if it wasn't an A and it was Love, she would have no reason to hide that she was with someone else.

This makes no sense. It's gobley gook--no disrespect. Anybody who is married and seeing somebody else is having an affair by definition. Other than that, you haven't said anything here.

Your situation is not that unique, and you seem to say this, but then you say things like the above to try to make it seem like your case is different. It isn't.

You might want to read up on busting affairs. Immediately after exposure, the exposure is likely to drive the affair partners closer together.

The point of exposure is not vindictive, it isn't to immediately win your spouse back either. Rather, it is to stop protecting the spouse having the affair from consequences of having an affair so that a little reality seeps in over less time partly by just ending the secrecy that adds to the affair's excitement.

Alan could tell you more if you give particulars like who would you expose to, and what would you tell them, and are they likely to support your marriage.

Alas, this is not that **special**. Sorry you are going through this, but dropping the rope, letting go, and going dim are usually the course after the spouse moves out. You, of course, need to protect yourself financially and stop any enabling behavior on your part.

As for divorce, that's your call. I can't imagine anybody would try to argue you out of it at this point, but it's your decission on how to proceed legally.