You don't get to share your emotional stuff/R talk with him if he doesn't get to do the same with you. Stop the R talk. Stop the personal talk. Stop the emotional talk.
Why in the world do you appreciate his calls? I don't think you do. Don't lie to him or yourself about this.
"It is inappropriate for me to be your emotional support while we are getting D or vice versa. That really doesn't work for me. We aren't working on an R together -- there isn't an R for us to work on right now, so for now I need to keep things strictly business."
