A new beginning to an end

[ImprovedRomeo]

The book says: You can't believe anything they say and only half of what they do. That is a very true statement!

Good for you for saying that to your H. Next time though I'd be less "open" about the reconciliation option at this point, door's unlocked but not wide open: "Talk is cheap. Unless you start acting on what you say I'm not interested in having these conversations. As for the D I'm sorry but the D seals the deal for me...there's no "us" after the D. It's a matter of pricinpal and integrity."

See I really believe he is a manipulative person. He knows you have feelings for him and that given the option you'll take him back. This gives him WAY too much power and control. He needs to see that the reconciliation option is getting smaller and smaller and you can't be manipulated. He's way too comfortable. In my opinion, as I've said before, he's stringing you along to make you go easy on him during the D. NO WAY!! If he wants the D then you'll give it to him but you'll do it YOUR way- not his. You'll fight back. So HE needs to feel that after the D it's over (even if it's not) so there's no reason to talk about "the future" anymore unless he starts by calling the D off.

Sol, unless you take a hard stance and set clear boundaries he's going to retain his god complex. He drove the process until now...but now you will take charge. See because you didn't sign the house over and you walked up to the judge he knows he's losing his power of manipulation over you that's why he's calling and 'communicating' with you all of a sudden.

My 2 cents.