Well, he came home yesterday and we talked last night and a little this morning. Needless to say.....I am just as confused and just as scared. He said that he really feels that he needs to work on himself before he can begin to work on us. I can understand and appreciate that but in the meantime we are going to get further apart. He won't touch me because he said he feels discusting about what he did. He is still going to this afternoon counseling session with me but he said he really doesn't want to, again because he thinks he needs to work on himself first. He basically said he thinks it might be necessary to seperate. How much more seperate can we get! He lives in a different city 5 days a week! He even, for the first time ever, slept on the couch last night because he couldn't bear to be in the same bed with me. He says because of how guilty and bad he feels. What about me!!!???? Does that sound childish? Is he right, does he have to work on himself first? If he does, I can't help but think he will continue to put up an even bigger wall between us. He said he feels like he has no emotions. I feel like it is just toward me though. Yet, I really don't know because he is gone during the week. I am so overwhelmed, scared, I feel alone, and I will be honest.....I desperatly what it to work. I just don't know what to do!
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me= 33 years old husband= 35 years old Married 8 years - together for 12 years 1 child - 3 years old