Happy weekend, all. I am writing a very quick fly-by posting.
H calls me this morning saying how he felt so weird at court yesterrday, how he thinks about calling everything off, how he's blah blah blah and I took the BOUNDARY advice from this:
Originally Posted By: whatisis
I'm not OT but I'll give it try! How about "I'm sorry you are feeling badly, this has been hard on both of us. But I think it would be best if you discussed how you're feeling with someone else"...and then say "someone who friggin' cares!"...just kidding!
and said: I know that we both care about eachother but if you are not calling me to talk about working on our M or reconciliation, I find it very inappropriate for you to be calling me.
He said "well i am sorry for calling you" and etc and I seaid I appreciate his phone calls but I needed him to hear me out.
He also said maybe it's best we D and then work on our R and then move in together and then later in 1-2 years get M'ed again. I told him that is absurd, we are like water & oil. I want to be M and he doesn't. I told him I will not be his live-in lover girl, that it doesn't work for me. He also asked me if I was seeing someone! WTH! I told him I do not want to be with a man who doesn't want to be with me and doesn't want to commit to me. H
We talked some more & then I ended the convo, saying I had to go.
