I am sorry you are here. I am not sure if I can advise since I am in a similar state of NC. My W left me 9 weeks ago and has not initiated contact except once during this time.
I can advise and I believe that it is posted on Sandi2 post the things you should not be doing. Other posters that have far greater experience in providing advice will be along soon. I am glad that your health is on the positive track.