Thanks once again D4ML for your support on my thread--it is appreciated!!
Wow--I do NOT see you alone in the future. Once you have gone through something like this, you have a common bond with others that have faced the same or similar challenges. I hardly know anyone that has a perfect marriage. Friends, aquaintances, they all relate how they "nearly divorced" or DID divorce. A LOT of my friends had gotten D'd when younger. Some were the WAW. Some were the "LB".
You just haven't opened yourself up to these conversations yet--but there are 1000s of stories and 1000s of potential friends for you to make. People who understand instantly what you are going through and talking about.
I felt a lot of shame the first time, so I do relate to this. The more work I did, the less to be ashamed about. It's now my H's loss completely. I am very, very aware of my issues. And I've done lots of work on them--TONS of work. I am very, very glad to have done this work.
And recognizing the problems means you have made a tremendous leap. Sure, it would be nice to "fix" it also. But recognizing it is still huge.
