Hey Kat, D4ML, thank you so, so much for the support. I have to call my stepmom soon to see "what's happening" and I'm dreading it!
Oh, the apologizing is quite new--I am used to all the nonsense that they say around here as they are leaving. My H told me only 2 or so days ago that his sister, his mother, and his 2 good friends "heard" me say at Xmas last year at his parents (this was when we were just to start C in Jan) that I was going to date a "hot young guy".
OMG!! MY sister was there, and my sister-in-law, and they heard NOTHING like that!! The ONLY thing that I could think of was I told my sister she needed to play paintball, because there were a TON of hot, young guys there. (My sister has been single for years and is very athletic)
He said months ago his mother heard it--now it has turned into all these "other" people. I have no doubt his one friend embelished it all--he is all about drama and LOVES to embelish stories.
In other words, they say all kinds of things--but they also forget about it--so many times you'll hear people say "remember when you said XYZ" and they have almost no memory of it--it happened with my H as well. The things he said 6 years ago he has forgotten.
It is thought that anger and guilt are intertwined. The more outrageous the things they say, the worse their guilt.
