Hi Eric, thank you for your advice, I really do appreciate it. I'm having the most awful day I think I've ever had. H was returning from his 12 day 'business trip' this morning, S4 has been so sad to not hear or see his dad in so long, I really had expected H to phone and check on S as soon as he touched down (note expected again ). Instead his BMF meets him at the airport (BMF seems to have replaced me in terms of the most important person in his life, for business and personal reasons)
BMF and him spend 1.5hrs talking about 'business' (I reckon H is glotaing about his romantic getaway). Then H texts to ask if he can spend some time with S sometime this weekend, and when will it suit me. Yes - the txts are always polite, but H has a phobia for being seen as the bad guy.
Sorry if my post is a little abrupt, I'm seething in anger as I write this.
So I text back saying 'ofcourse! Hes missing you like crazy! He's dying to see you.'
So H gets here about 1 hr later,to fetch S4, but he says to S, daddys come to fetch you, but daddy's still talking business to uncle BMF, is that ok?'
So when he came in the door, I said Hi! How was your trip, and he said 'good.' smiling and pretending to be busy straigtening S's hair , avoiding eye contact.
And then said he was going to a barbecue that eve, and wanted S to go to, so I said ofcourse.
And then abruptly left! He even left the car running in the driveway when he came in.
So much for wanting to be friends.
Friends don't do that.
I was feeling very hurt at the time , I tried VERY VERY hard not to show it, but I guess he picked up a little twinge in my face at the door and asked if i was ok. I said yes, its just that it was a very quick 'in and out'. So he said - OH, no its just that BMF is waiting for me (Gee thanks, dont I feel like chopped liver)
And off he ran.
As soon as I closed the door I burst into tears. And I havnt done that in a very long time. Then I got angry. Stormed upstairs and started packing all his stuff that he'd left behind into huge black bags which have now been extradited to the garage. It took me about 1 hr. And I'm feeling a little better now, but still a little angry and sad.
All that progress, and now back to square one.
HOW CAN YOU NOT GET EXCITED WHEN THERES PROGRESS?? HOWWWWW?????
I think my expectation repression button is faulty
). Instead his BMF meets him at the airport (BMF seems to have replaced me in terms of the most important person in his life, for business and personal reasons)