Ok, Allen, I know where I stand internally. Now I need help with a game plan. I need help with boundaries (big time - had a backslide tonight - might post it later, but too tired now).
Given - we're separated, and he considers OW a gf, not infidelity, and presumably that OW knows he's married...
I was reading this on another thread...is this something you suggest for me as well?...
"And again you don't threaten consequences.. you just DO IT
She will blast you
You use the confrontation script again
a - g
Then you exit and wait...
She does it again
You bring what consequences you can down on her head
She blasts you
you restrict her again
She will gradually realize you won't be a doormat... She will realize if she cheats, there are consequences and she will curb the activity and try to play fair...
usually.. this isn't 100%, but you need to set a boundary here and show what happens when its violated"
