But that's my position and what I am finding from researching infideltiy on this forum and in expert documentation on cases... infidelity may have different reasons for starting but they END the SAME WAY - CONSEQUENCES
That's why this doesn't fit: "What I hear in your posts is that you don't respect him. That you want him to be a certain way that fits your vision and it doesn't sound like you leave a lot of room for him to be him. "
It's not at all that I don't respect him or leave him to be him - it's that I am not respecting the actions of affair and drug use (even if he is not addicted). There will have to be consequences. If not from me, then the courts. Of course he doesn't see it my way. Other wise boundaries and consequences wouldn't be necessary.
