Tempting to ask what she's talking about, isn't it?
My W plays these crazy head games, too.
They will stop when you don't repond.
You're doing great, Faith
Yes Sir. Definitely made me think.
The old me would have asked and that's where I think she might have done it on purpose. I can't mind read though. It's being chalked up as irrelevant.
Thanks CD, I'm really doing good today. No extreme up and downs in which the emotions seem easier to handle. I'm starting to feel the control and power coming back. It's a very good feeling. Doesn't mean I don't get angry or sad, but my appetite came back! That's huge in itself.
appetite is important, it means you can handle your GUT!!! Testing and games typical. Sometimes, even ifthey are at their furthest point from the M, they will through a flare back there, to see if your still standing at the mouth of the cave they are walking into.
Ok, checked our account today. WAY more money than normal is being spent by her. I think her "Rent" means her bonus account has ran out and that was her lieing way of telling me, "Hey I'm not going to have enough money to help with the house".
My gut just "kinda" tells me she's paying for this dude too. This is disturbing.
Is this a test to see me react or are these concerns real?
Is this a reaction to being busted or not responding or both?
I can pull all my money if needed and just have agreement made up on how to settle.
I'm not freaking out or anything but this is a very different turn of events.
DO you have temporary orders? what is she spending your "joint" money on? I have noticed that the WA's get reckless and dont really understand the financials and what really needs to be set as a priority. You need to take action on this. Dont let herspend money recklessly, if you can shut down the account, and even put a hold on the funds some how I would.
No, I was to see L on Monday, but had to move to Tuesday because of work.
She's always been lost at money. She's super materialistic(but thrifty too), pretty much just spends at will for her addiction(shopaholic). She's the WORST when she's upset...that's the sign this is hitting her hard. Not mind reading, I KNOW.
She's just spending on her usual stuff like Stores, Hair, etc. Nothing extreme, but more than normal since she left. My gut is sending red flag. Not sure what yet.
then what is stopping you from putting a halt on money flying out of your joint account? is both yours and her money going in theaccount or is she spending your paycheck on this stuff?
