i learned that i 'ambush' when i argue/fight. i come from all angles and i just smother my target. i talk over them and hence i don't listen to what the other person has to say. it's almost as if i don't care and i don't want to listen to what you have to say. i've already made up my mind that you are wrong and i'm just going to overpower you with my reasoning. you have one point to make, so i will come at you with 20. this is something i have to stop. it's no wonder my h said i never listen to him. i'm too busy ambushing.
Congratulations to you for recognizing this. I think you are showing really remarkable growth.
Cheesecake muffins sound fabulous too!
Hang in there. I know you are going to come through this experience a better woman, regardless of how it turns out with your H.
