The OW came down to my area and we went for sushi and to a little pub afterwards. It was nice and peaceful. talked about some people we havent seen or taled to in a while. We talked about each others situations, we are on the same page.
We are enjoying each others company, laughing about similar BS in our M's and its just nice to interact with someone of the opposite sex with no expectations and no hidden agendas.
I told her I am not looking for anything more than friendship at this time. she was glad i said that she feels the same way. She did say she is attracted to me, which I said the same of her and also we both agreed we are both still married and there is nothing wrong with what we are doing.
I guess even though i am doing well with my DBing I am not ready to jump into something emotionally or physiclly with another woman. It does not feel right, even with the pending D I am not going to do something that I will regret or for selfish reasons think it will help me move on. A buddy joked the other day and I dont want to offend anyone, but his statement was " to get over a woman, get under a different one" its a funny saying, but that is it.
During our first split I did just that, yes she had an affair, I was angry and felt F her, I am going to become "frank the tank" and let loose. I did that, and I can look back now, it wasnt that fulfulling then and i dont think iy is the cure now. I dont know if i am making sense but it is what I felt when I came home tonight, so I decided to post what was on my mind.
