Should I move to the spare bedroom or not?

[rb1967]

Since i last posted i have had probably more bad days than good but i can look back and say that I am feeling better. H agreed to go to lunch with me on Thursday and it went well. We talked and I didnt bring up anything about the OW or get emotional like our last lunch.
Now my birthday is on Sunday and Thursday evening he asked me what wanted to do. I think I messed up here cause I invited him to an overnight hotel spa day. He waffeled on it taking 2 days cause he only wanted to take off his job for one day. Okay this is where I messed up cause even in a calm voice I went to the "are we working on our marriage thing, if so we should spend more time together then". Hopefully I caught myself before I got out of hand. Anyway I think there was also a timing issue cause he had already told me at lunch that he was going out for the evening.
Okay now this morning he asked me about it again and I was a deer in the headlights and said that I thought the overnight stay was too much for him and I didn’t want to smother him. We had a lengthy conversation after that about our issues. I actually think it went well and I didn’t cry or get emotional. I was very calm and he was mostly. We however are still at an impasse however, I feel like it was good for me to listen to the things he said cause he said some things I didn’t know or we had never talked about.
Anyway, we agreed to forgo the hotelspa thing an just go to a football game in 2 weeks. He also asked me when I was going to make an appointment with the marriage counselor.

Okay now question –I did make an appointment with a marriage counselor only for myself however and the 2 of us on Wednesday. I haven’t told him cause it is a different marriage counselor cause I think the last one didn’t help us. Not sure how he will handle this. How do I handle with him?

Second, question, -when my husband does come home he sleeps in the chair or on top of the covers. This is very distracting to me as I don’t sleep sound. So I spend the rest of the night not being able to sleep. Also, I think sometimes I have an attitude the next morning cause of the sleeping situation and now I know what time he gets home. I want to move to the spare bedroom 1-so I can sleep, act happy, and get some goals together 2)give him some space I
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Please help, I am terrified I may send the wrong message or on that may sabotage my efforts.