H sent me WAW Syndrome article...here I am.

[freespirit]

I'm confused. How did you join in 2007. Are you actually "Mrs. Freespirit"?

Yes, I am...a freespirit who has been married to an abusive man since 1999.

That is pretty wild stuff. I think Greek put up a thread last week about "perspective", in which she pondered the question: "how would the WAW's story differ if we could see that side too?". And here you are.

A WAW (which I am tecnically NOT) but for "sake of arguement" the difference is that I am just trying to tell my dh MY perspective and he will not receive it as MY perspective...
I am "wrong" and disrespectd and discounted....that is abuse.

I am actually sorry for your experiences. I believe that you did the right thing for your child by getting him away from the abuse, yet I know it was a hard thing to do.

Thanks and it was best for him (our son and me) and even my dh said that he is doing well with his daughter from his first marriage...age 19.

You guys are still married. If nothing else, it will help you communcate better and that will do nothing but be positive for your kid.

Yes, we are "still married" but it feels like a dead marriage; but I hope and will do my best to maintain a good "parenting relationship with him"...he is not the attentive parent (does not help son with homework), he is only trying to be the "most popular " one (buys gifts, etc.)