The games are more manipulations. You'd do this if you love me, type things. Threatening suicide.
He threatened this? Or you did?
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I haven't demanded that he change
Of course you did. Your earlier posts were full of controlling stuff.
Your mom was a piece of work
And no, you should not continue to be his verbal punching bag. I'm guessing that now things are changing. That's one of them. He'll need to learn a different way to deal with his issues, right?
And for the record, you already know this, none of that was your fault. It is possible that he was verbalizing his frustration incorrectly, and that may be an area he needs to work on. When he says, "you bought the groceries and that's why I'm overweight" == "I can't control my own eating habits and I'm frustrated" He will have to work on those things I'm sure. And he will, with or without you. He's motivated for that now and has no choice but to face them or run away. He can choose the latter, but I doubt he will at this point. That doesn't mean he knows what his changes need to be though, which is why it takes a lot of time.
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doesn't mean it's not the right thing to do
Right? Hmmm....
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
