My W was defintely an enabler she relied on me for so much during the initial phases of our relationship as well as through her nursing school that things got out of control...she allowed it and never set boundaries and I wasn't aware that she needed her space, thus, didn't stop it.
Sounds like you enabled her. You felt wanted and needed because she relied on you.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
