I am so mad at your ex, everything he has put you through and this yet again. Again, you have to protect yourself and your children. Clearly he is not done. I see nothing wrong in being angry regarding his actions. He deserve it. Maybe it is time for some really tough love.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I'm so sorry. But you can hold your head high knowing that you behaved with dignity, compassion and grace--your strength is incredible. Keep taking care of yourself in this difficult time.
Kissak, I am very sorry to see that he's still pretty much out there. The questioning he has done w/you is to see where your head is at and if you are getting frustrated by him being home and the things he has said and done. Unfortunately, the comments about you changing are all part of the processing of what has happened within himself. He's the one that's not changed and doing the work to repair the broken pieces within.
Please take care of yourself. You've done everything you possibly can to make life comfortable for him at home. Unfortunately, he's just not completely baked and it may be a while before that happens. Take a few days to get your mind and heart and a good place. You want to be as calm as possible when you talk to him about the situation.
We are all here for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
This is a hard day for me. I didnt see my H last night at all> I just couldnt manage to go home and be around him. I took the kids to town and we had dinner and shopped a while. He went out...where I dont know, but he came home at 2:00 in the morning smelling of liquior. The smell was overwhelming. This morning I didnt say much to him...I told him I had to go to the store and to my shop to do a little work.
I fussed at my daughter before I left and now she told my H that something was wrong with me. Now he is texting me wanting to know what is wrong. All I have said is that I will talk to him about it later...that I just have something on my mind.
So, now he is upset and calling me wanting to know what is wrong. SO now Im going home to confront him about the charges on his bank statement...then after I hear his side of the truth...if it doesnt match up with the further proof I have, well then I will confront him with that.
All I want is the truth. Im tired of the lies.
Pray for me please. I am scared to death.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I will be thinking of you and praying that the man upstairs will give you the strength and the proper words for what you need to discuss w/your h. The one thing that you will need to remember...stay calm, state your case, listen and then determine what you need to do for you and your children.
Sending prayers your way.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
