was talking to someone last night and I posed the question to them that she still has a piece of my heart and I want it back from her, but I can't get it. Sooooo, if I can't get it how could I ever give all of me to someone else eventually???

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missherlove - I was JUST talking to my Counselor Tuesday about this. I did some major soul searching on WHY I am so terrified to let go if I have to. It is because I have loved my H for 20 years and I am scared that if we got a divorce I wouldn't be able to love him anymore. I mean, who loves their x? But I really believe that I can still love him - AND have room to love someone else too. It is like how we love our kids...your heart just gets bigger with each one you have. After the birth of your first child, you think...How could I love anyone as much as I love this person? and then number 2 comes along and you find you love that child just as much. Does that make sense?

But I know that I am a very loving person and want to be loved in return - so if my H and I don't make it, I think I would be able to love again because I know what real love is and how it feels to be in a R when two people love each other, and I would not want to go the rest of my life without it.

We all love our S DEEPLY...that is why we are here standing for our marriages. and we may not ever love anyone the same agian, but I think that is okay. Doesn't mean we can't be happy and love again. It would just be different.

Do I sound crazy for thinking like this?


TAMF
m:41
xh:41
T: 20
M: 15
D: 16
D: 14
Bomb dropped: 7/3/10
separated: 7/15/10
H moved in to new apt. with OW: 7/1/11
divorced: 8/26/12